You are what you are...

You are what you are,you will not come out of your boundary and see that I have already come out of mine and I have not turned back again.On the other hand,You , keep assuming I am still in that comfortable line of mine which makes you think that I Am a complicated,abnormal character.

However,I have crossed it,for you,for us,long back,everytime.But you still see the 'No' I say and do not see or feel that I have been doing All that for which its a 'no' for me.

You have No's counted but where are my actions gone for all that I said No and still implemented?!

You have one way of showing love or gratitude or care or respect and if I follow or believe showing all this in other way, You say I have no respect .So if I do everything the way you are used to all these years, I have good values, else I am all negative? That is what you say? I dont respect people! Wow!i haven't said that is what you say ,but my dear,this is what you imply .

I never cared what others think,My priority was you everytime,on the other hand,you take an initiative only when others are involved in the scene! What would they think,what would I answer to them!Have you forgotton that You are the creator of this uncomfortable situation!

And as usual I took blames once again from all the usual to new ,and I will keep hearing all of them again and again but I will not act on it because I know you have a ready thought on me if I open my mouth,that is 'I argue,Excuse,I dont talk straight'. Instead of that its better keeping calm and hear more  negative thoughts on me from your mind,heart too ,yeah! Now when I talk or stay quiet,anyhow its either a blame or a correction on me or one of my negative manner that you point.But before anything of this mentioned ,you point on me, I know you say,I mean its not intentional,you actually feel that you never stopped me from Nything,you never are judgemental about my decisions,you never lowered my self respect.You feel you support me in a particular situation but what is the use you feel so when you point out the same thing sometime or everytime !You will agree to one of my way or policy and later point out on that saying,"You are like this!you did that,why do you do this ,It pains me,I never forced on u anything!" Diplomatic?! Self defensive? Being real and talking unreal or vice versa?

Ending the page but not the situation,as usual,my talk hits his mind either as explanation or excuse or argument.My calmness creates more negative thoughts in him.With My neutral behaviour or neutral talk he assumes that I talk About my sacrifices .As usual ,I might probably again, put back the pain and go on.Go on not to increase the gap between wife and husband.Or I might be stubborn not baring anymore if I just keep putting all that aside ,everytime.

Life in us,Life for us.

Life teaches you everything.Not in the sense of changing your qualities nor the way you are,but...

Yes,all that runs in our mind from here is the actual life.

As a Human being,there are common situations or feelings majority of people go through.Like in a particular region,midset of most of the people are alike.Say,from the field they chose for their kids to views about social life.

When I have just mentioned that "common feelings" ,here also comes Life of a person when she is in her schooling , next stage being her college/degree and then professional front.Before I got married,I always had to hear these common feelings from other married women close to me,frens and family.And they say,you must have positive mindset,courage to handle things,confidence to face different mindsets of people and particularly,when you dont like someone or their lifestyle,just be calm,but make sure you mingle with them,because,after marriage,there is everything wherein you just need to adjust and compromise.

And before any lady tells this,they would definitely mention one important thing,that, When you do all this,you will never feel pained because it is for love and good,you do and it is not called an adjustment or compromise or lowering down yourself.Okay! I completely agreed to that before marriage.I just had one thought running in my mind.Every family is different and though it is indian culture,each person takes life and things differently,then why do all the married women go through same situations?! (Oh ,yes,Indian married women,here).I used to feel annoyed and silly that how these women,including members of my family ,were not able to handle situations,When you are true to yourself,why do you even get a problem.Getting a problem is fine.All of them do have one or the problem.But why do the life after marriage often has ups and downs!?

One person is different from other.And I am not writing this without knowing this fact and I dont expect one should always understand the other or a couple should always be happy.Thats insane of me if I expect.And it is not that I support women or men.Point is why do in most of the cases,I really meant more,married women take blames,why do they have to suffer so much ,why do they have to explain everything.Importantly,when there is calmness,there is a problem,when something is clearly spoken,still  it is wrongly taken by the partner?!

I know ,like women face some pressures everytime,men on the other hand do take other kind of pressures related to the same.But tell me, true to your heart ,dont you feel we think in all ways and from husband's point of view.Also we try to change or improve ourselves to make them more happy.We do  many things to see them happy.

Oh ya,if we change its a problem again you see, they feel, we keep telling them we have sacrificed a lot for them! What!? but our intention was to express to them that how truly we love them and how happy we feel in doing them everything,for him,for our life.

Suppose,lets be quiet and just move on,let the negative thoughts keep running in them,when you are trying to turn everything positive,still you had to take blame! Stay quiet.Now,what next? You dont take things straight.ha ha?Thats what you hear!

we get into arguments and try to win?When the girl,is actually not understanding what she has done and when she has everything turned smooth from the past till now just to make their family happy,and when the girl moves on positively in her life, he turns situations complicated and says That she has made all turn complicated! what !!!

I do support everyone's choices unless they are not influenced on others.And when you are confident aNd you believe in something, then whatever you believe will definitely do good to you.Dont be half way and turn back with a confused thought.you will surely fall down .Go with what you believe in.

Yes, and where i stopped in the beggining,

Life teaches you everything.Not in the sense of changing your qualities nor the way you are,but...

But it teaches you how to stay controlled when things go wrong.when you feel your self respect is lowered ,even then you will see the world by not looking down.It teaches to have more will power,confidence.It teaches you how to get up when you fall down,how to get up when there is no balance and Life tells you, you are born with nothing and in the process of growing,you will have nothing by end.