Yes,all that runs in our mind from here is the actual life.
As a Human being,there are common situations or feelings majority of people go through.Like in a particular region,midset of most of the people are alike.Say,from the field they chose for their kids to views about social life.
When I have just mentioned that "common feelings" ,here also comes Life of a person when she is in her schooling , next stage being her college/degree and then professional front.Before I got married,I always had to hear these common feelings from other married women close to me,frens and family.And they say,you must have positive mindset,courage to handle things,confidence to face different mindsets of people and particularly,when you dont like someone or their lifestyle,just be calm,but make sure you mingle with them,because,after marriage,there is everything wherein you just need to adjust and compromise.
And before any lady tells this,they would definitely mention one important thing,that, When you do all this,you will never feel pained because it is for love and good,you do and it is not called an adjustment or compromise or lowering down yourself.Okay! I completely agreed to that before marriage.I just had one thought running in my mind.Every family is different and though it is indian culture,each person takes life and things differently,then why do all the married women go through same situations?! (Oh ,yes,Indian married women,here).I used to feel annoyed and silly that how these women,including members of my family ,were not able to handle situations,When you are true to yourself,why do you even get a problem.Getting a problem is fine.All of them do have one or the problem.But why do the life after marriage often has ups and downs!?
One person is different from other.And I am not writing this without knowing this fact and I dont expect one should always understand the other or a couple should always be happy.Thats insane of me if I expect.And it is not that I support women or men.Point is why do in most of the cases,I really meant more,married women take blames,why do they have to suffer so much ,why do they have to explain everything.Importantly,when there is calmness,there is a problem,when something is clearly spoken,still it is wrongly taken by the partner?!
I know ,like women face some pressures everytime,men on the other hand do take other kind of pressures related to the same.But tell me, true to your heart ,dont you feel we think in all ways and from husband's point of view.Also we try to change or improve ourselves to make them more happy.We do many things to see them happy.
Oh ya,if we change its a problem again you see, they feel, we keep telling them we have sacrificed a lot for them! What!? but our intention was to express to them that how truly we love them and how happy we feel in doing them everything,for him,for our life.
Suppose,lets be quiet and just move on,let the negative thoughts keep running in them,when you are trying to turn everything positive,still you had to take blame! Stay quiet.Now,what next? You dont take things straight.ha ha?Thats what you hear!
we get into arguments and try to win?When the girl,is actually not understanding what she has done and when she has everything turned smooth from the past till now just to make their family happy,and when the girl moves on positively in her life, he turns situations complicated and says That she has made all turn complicated! what !!!
I do support everyone's choices unless they are not influenced on others.And when you are confident aNd you believe in something, then whatever you believe will definitely do good to you.Dont be half way and turn back with a confused thought.you will surely fall down .Go with what you believe in.
Yes, and where i stopped in the beggining,
Life teaches you everything.Not in the sense of changing your qualities nor the way you are,but...
But it teaches you how to stay controlled when things go wrong.when you feel your self respect is lowered ,even then you will see the world by not looking down.It teaches to have more will power,confidence.It teaches you how to get up when you fall down,how to get up when there is no balance and Life tells you, you are born with nothing and in the process of growing,you will have nothing by end.
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